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Patience, Pride and Priorities

Most of us return to the earthly plane because we fail to gain command of our desire for expedition.  “Lord, please make me patient . . . but do it right now!”  We take special pride in getting things done quickly and, should an unfortunate person marching to the beat of a different drum get in our way, heaven help him.  He is to be mercilessly excoriated with an abundance of nouns, adverbs and adjectives, specifically designed to summarily dismiss the fellow from our list of priorities.  Teach him a lesson.

Patience is one of the lessons we find to be continued and represents a major impediment to progress in our quest for godship.  It is not an insurmountable impediment, however, and with constant attention through use of will, we can carve out slivers of its lack from our essence until we become . . . patience.  The best place to start is in the home with those we care for most.

Four-year-old Gina is determined to tie her shoestrings.  She has seen others do it, and she wants to do it all by herself.  So, Dad shows her how, step-by-step in her terms, and watches as the little fingers try to negotiate those gigantic cords.  Dad shows her again.  And again.  With each attempt he can see Gina’s resolve slowly slip away.  But unlike the ebb tide in a calm sea, Gina explodes, not unexpectedly, in a dither of tears and sobs, for the end of her world is at hand.

At this point, assuming Dad maintained a loving posture with his little girl, he has a choice to make, a choice of will that may never be forgotten in the life of his child.  Both options involve pride and priorities.  Should he wonder if his daughter is deficient in muscle coordination, that he cannot believe a child her age is unable to learn such a trifling task, and that his hope she would be more like him in every way, then his priority is self-pride.

On the other hand, if Dad grabs that little soul and presses her to his heart, tears, mucous, warts and all, and tells her, “Oh, don’t cry, baby.  I am so proud of you for doing so well on your first try.  Nobody learns to tie shoes in one day.  We’ll do it again tomorrow.  And because you did so well, you deserve a treat.  How about some ice-cream, OK?”

Patience, pride and priorities; they work well together, if we will them to.

Copyright © April,  2000 dtgosnell

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